A Letter To My 29 Year Old Self

4 Times and Counting


Dear Sharon,

I am here with you on this February morning of 1988, watching you sleep. I am taken aback not just by your youthful appearance but by a look on your face I haven’t seen in years. Even in sleep, your face shows a look of optimism and blind faith that everything in your life will turn out alright.  You still innocently believe that the universe is a fair and orderly place where good people are rewarded and bad people are punished. I wonder if this is the last time you will ever look like this or if it takes a few more days or weeks for that innocence to disappear forever.                                                   

You think you are going through a rough patch right now due to recent personal losses. By the time this day is over, the break-up with your boyfriend and the lay-off from your job will be the…

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10 thoughts on “A Letter To My 29 Year Old Self

  1. Hi Sharon
    I’m not sure what I would have said. My life has taken so many turns for the good and bad, I couldn’t have predicted were I would be doing. It struck my from a age and health issue, I had cervical cancer and had a total hysto at 28. Thank you for sharing a difficult personal time.
    Have a great day.

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    1. Thanks M for sharing that with us. At 29, I would have been horrified if someone had actually said you will have breast cancer at least 3 more times, you will lose both breasts and your ovaries, you will lose your fertility from chemo, etc. The amount of bad stuff described would have paralyzed, depressed, and overwhelmed me. But living life day by day, you somehow learn to cope with the challenges and find peace and joy amidst the chaos. If not for the loss of fertility, I probably wouldn’t have turned to adoption and wouldn’t be mom to the 2 wonderful children I have today. Sometimes it is better not to know too much of our future in advance.

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      1. Hi Sharon
        You are a Survivor! We all have shit thrown at us, some worse than others but in the end all that matters is what you do next. Every time you were knocked down, you ask the questions, weighed the procedure and you made a decision. Many would stand paralyzed unable to take a step forward. You are a very strong person, I love how your pull the reader is on what to do next. You open yourself up. No doubt at times uncomfortable and wished it was a bad dream. You have a positive attitude about your future and you support others who are at the beginning. I’m so glad you joined the team. The goal for the collaborative was always to provide support. You are not breast cancer, you have a life outside of your illness. You share your struggles and share you story, which is quite a story.


        1. Wow! Thank you so much for all those positive comments. I am almost speechless. I am very happy to be blogging here. Every blogger involved with this site is super talented and has an amazing story to tell. I see supportive posts on this site on a wide variety of topics, many of which are difficult to discuss. I have great admiration for all the bloggers that post here and am honoured to be part of the team.

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