The memories of what next?

Recently I spoke with my old therapist she has many years experience in defending aswell as writing up reports on abuse cases that will be going to court. I generally wanted to know the course of action that will happen ,how invasive are the questions ,time frames etc. seen I now live over seas ! M was incredibly truthful with me in explaining that more that 85 percent of her clients regret or are more traumatized than ever after either beginning or finishing the court trial, by this stage I was crying on the phone “we spoke about my reasons ,they pretty simple im at a honest stage im sick of hearing how my uncle for one continues to molest children even at the age of 77 there around and even though he has dementia and numerous other health issues he still remembers how to do this “YUK” and yet family still hold onto the belief his not aware anymore ,shame leave him the live in a very poverty stricken squatter camp in south Africa so im guessing these young teens are more venerable! Then for me there was not only him I was abused by a cousin and four of his friends and roughly same time there was another group of three that joined separately  making a total of 8 offenders so my battle was going to be more intense. M also spoke of the strain on my family as all will be interviewed and we talking of a time frame over 30 odd years how would we manage? … could we survive this?

At this point i battle daily to stay grounded as night falls and my mind wonders were too , M as far away as we are is available for more chats surrounding my questions …she made me promise that either way forward id not do it alone I need a small group of supporters of professionals and family who no my queues .There’s something about that I hate grrr I so want to go it alone its mine and ill deal with it ,there’s to the other piece of contacting sexual abuse rape crises and getting support to a police interview next week around more questions on the process , im battling to even ring and ask!

As for now im drowning myself in work 14 hour days it helps my anxiety and for now im home and don’t return till weekend and Monday then home 3 days were ill go this interview …”BREATH IM TRYING”

 

 

 

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5 comments

  1. I only know that when I confronted some abuse from my past, but in a much smaller way, I benefitted from the confrontation, even though I faced denial of the truth. I had peace, finally, in my own mind.

    You have so much more to go through. Truth is usually better out in the open, though it’s messy and painful and often denied.

    People do not realise the long term impact of abuse on a life. Most just want to dismiss it, not face it.

    I admire your courage ❤

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    • I’m by no means strong I’m scared petrified.
      Few years back i confronted the instigator and he remembered nothing the affect was heart renching how was this possible he was the ring leader of 3 others involved. .this part lately has made me feel the physical pain more intensely! 😢
      My family are only partly aware over a two year period of me telling my piece I was sexually abused mostly with yous present at odd times..but my full exposure of all involved iv never mentioned not even to my husband! ! Breathing is just hard to stomach that to.

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    • Hi Ann,
      I do to …however this week coming I meet with police on just a general level of getting to know how the process will run ,and it’s certainly having its toll on me my mind continuesly run the abusers through it questioning right from wrong with amense body pain associated with it.
      Will I be able to do it..is my ???

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