if you have a problem that cannot be fixed…
meaning there is no solution what so ever, but you then analyse the problem over and over in your head (ruminate), you are in deep trouble of making yourself sick (mentally), and the more you analyse the problem, the more attached you become, which makes you analyse it more and more.
Analysis paralysis or paralysis by analysis is the state of over-analyzing (or over-thinking) a situation so that a decision or action is never taken, in effect paralyzing the outcome.
then when you have a trusted friend who listens to your constant analysis, your friendship is in danger of ending.
i had an excellent example of this happening to me, and then me doing it to another friend too !
HIM: i had a ten year friendship with someone who would analyse things over & over & over & over…
in one year he analysed just one thing, which drove me completely crazy…he literally continually talked about one thing for a whole year….and there was never going to be a solution.
i wasn’t able to get him to talk about something else. really sad! but he was also extremely right-wing, which also effected the eventual end of our friendship.
ME: i currently have a problem that has no solution, and i’ve been ear-bashing a friend for the last three and a half years, about it. so the same scenario…with me doing it to someone else. scary. thankfully my friend has spoken to me to say enough. i’m so grateful he did.
rumination is very destructive to one’s mental health, so be warned….as you can loose very good friends if you keep talking to them about a problem that has no solution.