complaining = victimhood

All spiritual teachers say that complaining will reinforce your feelings of victimhood. 

I’m in the middle of my second major victimization, and I’ve been complaining for the last 3 and a half years.

Complaining feels good, but has a heavy consequence. The complaining actually makes the feeling of victimization stronger.

If you are being attacked, you need to go to the proper officials to get help…..

….but if you get the help you need but continue to complain, you are only going to make yourself sick, but also potentially loose your friends, that you are complaining to.

This has taken me a total of seven years to learn this valuable lesson.

Every time I would complain about ‘the issue’, my emotions would get more stronger. Every time I complain, I reinforce my past pain and victimization.

Complaining is highly addictive, so be careful.

Now I no longer systematically complain about my problem….. I’ve finally worked out it doesn’t help, but quite the opposite.


13 thoughts on “complaining = victimhood

  1. I agree, complaining just cuts the ruts deeper into the mud.
    On the other hand, there is constructive conversation where you express your feelings and explore your situation. I used to avoid speaking because I didn’t want to appear to be complaining, just another tool in my anti-me arsenal.

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    1. I haven’t tried this so don’t take my word for it, but I wonder if after complaining we take as much time thinking what we are thankful for might help? Like whatever– WP, a sixth grade teacher, caressing breeze at the end of a hot day– pet if we have one, getting one if we don’t….

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  2. G
    Love it, thanks for sending over. How ever you posted this time was differ. I’m waiting on wordpress to give me a step by step instruction on how to do. It’s crazy, Thursday my reblog button wound not show, it’s marked in setting to include reblog in every post. I’m not sure I sent over, I hit a hole in my brain.
    I wish you bring frustrations like to me, I’m here to make your job as easy as possible. Sounds like you were doing twice the work.

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      1. I understand that, being abused as a child there is no way I would complain. That mean’t another beating. I got started in my early 20’s, I continued to complain to my ex but when started making big money there wasn’t much to complain about. My boss took care of the complaints for me. Now, I try to look at each day as Wow I’m alive. Depression & pain can make it harder. What did you do different on the last post? More info was there, only thing not showing in the top area is who posted it. I’m making WP write out step by step instructions. In the big picture, we are well enough we move forward more days than not. We are Survivors! πŸ™‚

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          1. I’ve had several issues with meds in the past months becoming Psychotic. I have know rage towards my abusers but not everyone who spoke to me. One day I had four police cars and two fire trucks here, I guess as time went on waiting for husband to get home I started getting very foul mouth vocal. It’s a much longer story, I’m filing a complaint on one of the officers.

            Have you had interaction with Casey? I’m writing his intro letter and thought it would be cool to include comments from a couple of people. If you have something to add, even a sentence, that would be great. Robert knows him pretty well, Robert’s having a hard time right now. I hope to get a comment but not sure. Talk to you later.


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