Maintaining

Originally posted on Journey Into A on November 15, 2017.

A couple of weeks ago I had a passenger who answered the phone and when the caller asked how he was, he said “I’m maintaining”. It stuck with me. It felt like the first time I’d ever heard someone say that.

The brain works in mysterious ways. Perhaps I’d heard that a hundred times in my life, not as many times to refer to as “common” when I’d usually think of the typical responses of “oh, doing fine”, “I’m alright”, “I’m good” or “I’m getting by”, I’m going through some things”, etc. I have truly no recollection of ever having heard that before, but this time I heard it, and I mean heard it, because I needed to hear it. He said something completely in the middle of those common responses.

It struck me as gold. It was a way to communicate that you’re going through the good and the bad that life throws at us. It was that middle ground that explains being in between or in transition or in coming out of something or changing. It alludes to you having gone through some things and that you’re actively working to move past them. It was beautiful. I couldn’t stop thinking about it.

I told him right then and there that I’d liked his response. I told him how it made me feel and how it provoked so much thought. It was an honest response. It was a way to not feel that guilt you feel when you toss someone one of those generic responses. You know the feeling- you get it with those people that you feel really could hear you and listen to you, but you give them the old “I’m fine” when they ask how you are. You gave them that response because you still aren’t sure if they will really hear you, when so many don’t listen or don’t want to listen. We don’t want to bother anybody with the truth.

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Today Doesn’t Suck (and tomorrow won’t either)

I may have overslept and gotten a late start to my day,

….but I rose from a comfortable bed to been given another one.

I woke to the slushy snow that fell as I slept, but saw how even with absence of sun, the day looked bright in its reflection. Despite the cold, my House is warm and I lit candles to lift my spirit.

My Children may have complained about the lunch I made, but we have a choice of food and the fridge is full.

I was overloaded with wash as always, but today I felt blessed for being well off to cloth them with choice.

My floors needed a second vacuum over from my cat and dogs hair, but overlooked the work for their little hearts that jump when they see me. Their unconditional devotion is priceless.

The Day doesn’t suck because I chose to spend it cleaning and washing for my Family, the day is WONDERFUL because I have one to do this for.

The Day only sucks when we don’t take hold of it, when it is over and done and we’ve achieved nothing.

Not a goal, a good feeling or a good deed, be it for ourselves or for others.

Know what? Tomorrow won’t suck either. I’ll be given with luck, another day, to choose once again to make it good.

Happy Tuesday all!

Hugs, H.